Not Loud, Why??

How does it feel when you have to face everything and you don't even know why?? What if a boy reading this is banged with rock on head and left for more people to treat you like hell?? 

August month, month with Independence Day and Rakshabandhan.. Who doesn't know about this?? We feel proud being brought into this world, in India, land of heritage and cultures and for many tourists, this has become the only 2 things mentioned as the identity of the whole country .. Many think every men here is either Ram or Krishn, who treats every lady like Sita or Rukmini.. (??)

Rakshabandhan this year, was on 3rd August.. Saw the news next day?? 12 year old raped in Delhi.. News didn't end here, she was left with fractured skull and ruptured intestines in her own house, fact being all this happened just after 1 day of making promises to our sisters to protect them and be with them in extremest.. If the very next day, we cannot keep up our promises, why do we need such days then??

Talk isn't only about this Delhi case.. During Lockdown, when Corona was breaking records in India, likewise, Domestic Violence didn't lack behind.. Day by day, cases are increased but not the forces taking action on it.. All of this now, have just become a number for us, nothing more than a news headline, is that it?? It is sad something like that took place, whereas it is WORSE that this case is not the last..

India ranks 133 when it comes to Women Peace and Safety Index (2019).. 

Same 2 reasons (possibly more) :-

1) Patriarchy..

Indians hate women.. They do no like hearing 'Congratulations, you are blessed with a daughter' when they visit the hospital expecting 'it' to be a boy.. People have kids because they think they will do something for them in future when they are done raising them.. And in that sense, Son is chosen, as he'll grow up, earn and at the end of the day, will be with them taking care till their last breath.. Girls, they think are 'debt'.. Why?? She will have to be protected (from very safe environment we Indians have created), secondly will leave home after marriage and paying dowry for her is one more thing.. So instead of taking so much burden, they find it easy to disbalance the Sex Ratio..

2) Women..

This shall sound different but yes, women only.. I blame the elder ones here.. I know it is strange but the thing is, women who have been suffering whole life do nothing when it comes to their own daughter or in law to follow the same thing.. There are elder women who judge young ones when they are working.. Apart from these, girls who are bought up in situation like these, they think it is normal.. So what they should do is, get up job and break this belief, right?? But no guys, they prefer or maybe find getting married and raising kids easier than setting up and building career setup for and by herself..

What we can do as Male figures??

I always wanted to have a pony on my head and guess what, this Quarantine gave me one Coconut Tree.. So having that long hair and tieing ponies makes me girl?? Do we guys even know what it takes to be a girl??

The struggle starts even before the world witnesses them.. Their birth is not assured.. Find it lucky to have one sitting beside you attending the lecture or working with you in same building, many don't get to study or work and many more don't even have a birthdate.. As a kid, I saw them crying for somebody pulling their hair down, or maybe losing in any game, wish this remained same when they grew.. I mean not crying for every little thing but the reasons should not be society - set.. Guys try understanding 'her', be with them when they really need help from you, not only when you want them.. Their concerns, responsibility and insecurities keeps on increasing with their age, we can't change her responsibilities in most cases, whereas their concerns we can share and insecurities we can decrease..

Let's start from our end first then point finger on someone.. Avoid expecting 'Perfection' from them, but push them and try to bring out 'Bravery' out of them..

Daughters, sisters, friends, teachers, mothers, batch mates, bench mates, and everybody out there, A very Big Thank You for contributing everything, knowingly or unknowingly in my life for making it a bit more witty, a little more childish and a person to witness how it feels to study under, study with, shooting your basketball with, laugh and tease with opposite gender..

#LuckyToMeetYou..